Feeling sorry comes from a lack of respect and fear
I often have parents telling me how sorry they feel for their children and it drives me mad!
If you feel sorry for someone, then how can you truly love them?
To love someone is to trust and respect them completely. With that respect comes a knowing that they can get themselves out of the situations they are in, that they will be all right.
When we feel sorry for someone we are really saying that we do not respect them enough, that we don?t trust that they can deal with whatever is happening and that we fear the effect upon us if they cannot!
So, instead of panicking when your child appears to make no decisions about his future or college, just stop and tell him that you respect and trust that he will make the right decisions.