What you must say to your teenager to lessen the blow of a divorce.
1. It’s not their fault.
Teens are sensitive souls at a very vulnerable time of their lives. What you say now will make an impression. Let them know, despite how good or bad they were, that this break up is not in any way their fault.
2. That you love them.
I know this seems obvious, but it is not always done. Teens can think that a break means that you just didn’t love them enough to stay together. How many people say they stay together for the children? Better to let your teen know that you love them and you want them to see this is not a great relationship, rather than to stay together for their sake with everyone unhappy.
3. How things will change.
Teens worry how the break up will affect them and often the parents are too worried about themselves to worry about their child. Let them know what will and will not change as soon as you can and reassure them that you will do your best to keep things as they are now, if possible.