Offering your seat is so last century!
The other day something pretty normal happened on the tube which had me asking a question I am not sure I know the answer to.
Let me explain:
I was sat on the tube minding my own business, it was busy as always. This young pretty girl gets on. A man (middle aged wearing a football t-shirt – not that that really matters). Gets up and offers her his seat. She says she is fine and doesn’t need to sit down. He continues to offer her the seat saying” Come on take the offer there are not many gentlemen left these day,” while looking around at the other passengers. Everyone is avoiding his eye, the girls reluctantly sits down and you can tell she is uncomfortable with the situation. I smile at her as to reassure her all is well and the journey continues.
I couldn’t help wondering though if offering your seat is so last century and well a little bit chauvinistic. She wasn’t pregnant and wasn’t carrying a baby. She was young and pretty (he hadn’t offered the seat to anyone else before she got on, including me). She was as capable as standing as he was. So why offer her the seat? Is there not an undertone in this that insinuates that she is the weaker sex?
I think for this generation of youth this type of behaviour must be baffling, odd in fact , for them male and females are equal.
Is offering your seat up to a female who clearly doesn’t need or want it polite or sexist? I am edging on the side of sexist but I am really not sure – what about you? How do you feel?