Your private thoughts should be private!
As some of you may know, I recently accompanied my daughter to a single launch for a soon-to-be-famous, I am sure, boy band. It wasn’t as hideous as I thought it would be and minus some scantily clad (well maybe more than a few) young girls, I actually enjoyed it. However, what it did remind me of is how lucky I think I was growing up in the eighties. Let me explain.
I did have a few crushes in my time, mainly on a tennis player whom I was convinced I was going to marry, if only he could meet me, however these crushes stayed strictly within my bedroom walls and while my teddies listened for hours to my ramblings about him, pretty much no one else knew. My private insane thoughts were kept private. I grew out of it and no one knew that I was slightly psychotic, if only for a short while.
But how things have changed! While I expected to see girls claiming their undying love for certain band members, what I didn’t expect was the outpouring of very private thoughts on Facebook.
Here is a sample, for which we have changed names to protect the innocent.
Sad but happy at the same my heads mixed up..trying to let feeling go for someone is hard but ive found a new person to dream about hes not who I want but thats the way it is. Love is one word I have to let go with this guy even though my heart is full of it when I see his face
You are everything to me. I don’t know how I would have gone through the past 2 years without you. Your beautifullness, your eyes, your voice, your moves, your desire to go ahead despite all the criticisms. Your’e my inspiration’s. You do so much for others. You deserve respect, no matter if other people like it or not.
So I know I’m late but I couldn’t write what I wanted to write on here yesterday cus I couldn’t see the screen and keypad through my tears but here it is -
I first met you at butlins on.the 29th of October in minehead and I remember my heart was beating that fast when the curtains moved and the fact I nearly fainted when I met you I watched every twitcam you have ever done and I’ve made so many friends outta your fans I can remember the days when I heard ‘ReConnected’ ‘Superhuman’ ‘Seeing Stars’ ‘Stranded’ ‘December’ ‘Wish You Were Here’ I cried I remember having a text message from a friend whilst I was on holiday saying you were coming to bristol I ran around the sealife centre cus I was that excited I remember leaving bristol with tears in my eyes ? Monday night was just amazing One In A Million Is Fantastic I’m so proud of how far you’ve come and it made me realise that its time to start remembering the times you’ve made me smile ,laugh ,cry and realising that it will soon be time to let you go although it will break my heart knowing that I won’t be able to meet you but ill be proud that I’ve met you three times and that’s I’ve watched you get to were you are today ? I love you with all my heart and my love for you will never fade ? your are my world ReConnected and will always be ?
I don’t know about you, but are you not concerned for these girls, do you not want to put them on suicide watch or at the very least does it not make you concerned about their sanity? Well it does me. My personal thoughts should be personal. If we all vomited our innermost thoughts onto Facebook, then I think we would be a judged as insane; perhaps mine would read, “Started writing a novel, not sure I can write a novel, I was dyslexic at school and was told I was no good and I feel I can’t do this and all I want to do is cry… help!”
We all have inner voices; we all have an inner psyche that needs to stay inner. We really need to teach our young girls the difference between sharing what they are doing and feeling at the moment with sharing what are truly private thoughts, thoughts that never leave your head, thoughts should never be there for everyone to see. Can you imagine as a teen being followed around by written proof of what is inside your head? No, I am happy to be a 80′s chick!
