“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”
Behaviour has always fascinated me, even before becoming a police officer I was an investigator, always wanting to know more, wanting to know why and never taking something at face value.
Most behavioural models never made any sense to me; they all seemed too simplistic and not nuanced enough for my liking. I searched and searched for something that made sense and came across Choice Theory, which I subsequently became trained in.
It’s not an easy-to-swallow, nicely packaged system but it works, makes sense and is what I have been using in my work for over 15 years. It was the starting point that allowed me to create The Human Identity Matrix ™.
Choice Theory has some main principles when it comes to behaviour and perambulates through all the work I do.
These Principles Are:
• All we do is behave
• Almost all behaviour is chosen, and
• We are driven by our genes to satisfy five basic needs: survival, love and belonging, power, freedom and fun.
• We can only satisfy our needs by matching the pictures in our Quality World. These pictures motivate our behaviour.
• In practice, the most important need is love and belonging, as closeness and connectedness with the people we care about is a requisite for satisfying all of the needs.
*Taken from William Glasser International.
As you can see the principles are challenging.
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